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Derek's Love Language

All my children love in different ways. Conrad's love language is quality time. Austin's is physical touch and Allison's is probably words of affirmation (haven't figured hers out completely yet.) But Derek's love language is the most obvious of all. He gives gifts.

Many times he gives me a drawing or a note or some paper craft that he has made just for me. On Valentine's Day, he hung a big red heart in the office. "I love you, Mom and Dad" it said. On my birthday, he gave me a special blank book that he had made himself. When the flaps were opened, they again revealed part of his heart. On Mother's Day it was an elaborate card with his love written inside. His eyes always glow when his gifts are aknowledged and accepted. (And of course, he especially enjoys when I exclaim with oohs! and aahs!)

Our recent trip to Cracow was one of those times. We traveled by train with John's two nephews for a fun two days exploring Cracow and also visiting Auschwitz (more on that in another post). We shopped on the town square and although most of it was window shopping for us, I always enjoy helping others shop and loved helping the nephews find gifts for their families.

Finally, we were seated on the train ready to come home. Derek's eyes sparkled as he handed me a paper-wrapped gift. "I bought it for you, Mama," he said. I carefully unwrapped it. Inside was a wooden plate with a scene from Cracow beautifully burned into the grain.

"You bought it for me, Derek? with your very own money? It's so pretty!"

"Yep, I had twenty zloties at home and this costed me twelve." He giggled nervously.

A lump rose in my throat. I wanted to squeeze him tightly. He had almost spent his last penny to buy a gift for me, his mom, and he was beaming happily. And that is my Derek. I know without a doubt that he loves me.

When we arrived home, I found a prominent nail in the office and hung it up to remind me of his selfless love to me. I tenderly rubbed my hand over the image burnt into the wood. Thank you again, Son. I will treasure this gift as long as I live!

Comments

Momof3 said…
How precious gifts from children can be! It's so easy to want to throw away little papers they draw for you in church, etc., yet knowing they did this with you in mind always makes me feel so cherished! Between my daycare children and now our nieces and nephews, we could have accumulated quite a stack now, had I kept all we were given....
Thanking God for His gift of little ones to daily bless our lives and remind us of HIS goodness to us,
Lez
Anonymous said…
I wonder if God feels the same way when He received "childlike" happy time spent with Him, or in total obedience. I remember a good friend telling me that the ONLY thing we can give God that He did not supply us with was our total love and obedience...I know it is still only the response to His Great love first, but it makes me want to truly "give" my Father the twin gifts of love and obedience...maybe that's the essence of childlike faith...If God has a refrigerator, maybe it is papered with His children's "obedience".
Iain
I like that, iain. BTW, I see you're from Oregeon? Should I know who you are?
Anonymous said…
Hi Laura,
No, I suppose I should have introduced myself better. I've been reading your blog for awhile and enjoying it. I am always interested in what people are doing halfway around the world...especially those working to bring light into the darkness. Hope you don't mind my eavesdropping.
No problem, iain, eavesdrop all you want. Welcome!

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